Who Walks Down the Aisle in a Same-Sex Wedding?

Are you planning your same-sex wedding and realizing, “How will we walk down the aisle?” This is a common question same-sex couples ask each other. Who goes first? Is someone supposed to walk us down the aisle? Do we walk alone? Do we walk together? The answer to any of these questions is there are no rules! Do what feels right and makes sense to you as a couple. Just in case you need some help deciding which route to take, consider these ideas below, but know it’s truly up to you and your partner how you want to do this.

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Option 1 - You Each Walk Alone

You can walk down the aisle by yourself, giving each of you a moment to shine in the spotlight. Your guests will take each of you in and gaze (no pun intended) upon your glorious outfit. Unsure who should go first? You can draw straws or even play rock, paper, scissors to decide.

Option 2 - You Walk Together

You can also walk down the aisle together, symbolizing the road you’ve traveled together up until this point and the road you’ll continue to travel after you get married.

Option 3 - A Parent or Someone Special in Your Life Walks with Each of You

Somewhat traditionally, you could have your parent or someone who means a lot to you walk you down the aisle. Many queer people dream about their parents walking them down the aisle but may not have their parents around or, even worse, have a parent who is unsupportive and refuses to come to the wedding. In any case, know there are Facebook groups and organizations out there of people willing and wanting to step up to be there for you. A dear relative, friend, or colleague could also be a really great option. I promise people will not blink an eye and wonder why a certain person is walking you down the aisle. As long as it’s what you want, that is all that matters!

Regardless of your choice, know that your wedding day will be amazing! The goal is to get married. Getting down the aisle is just a small detail, and it will be done in a finger snap. Do not stress yourself out too much, figuring out how you will get there. Do what’s right for you, and enjoy the rest!

If you are a same-sex couple in Southern California looking for a gay wedding planner to help you with all your wedding planning needs, reach out today! I would love to learn more about you and help plan the wedding of your dreams!